You’ve likely had moments when someone makes a subtle comment that you both know is a jab in your direction. It irritates you. You stew over it, thinking of the many ways you can defend yourself and point out their faults.
Sometimes, you should speak up and defend yourself. Sometimes it’s not good to stay quiet and let people walk all over you.
But often, it’s just the other person being small, and everyone in the room knows it. They don’t feel good about themselves, so they try to make others feel even lower. Insecure people are in a constant game of comparing themselves to others – sometimes they feel superior, but often they feel inferior. It’s an exhausting game of seeking equilibrium for their fragile ego.
I should know. I catch myself feeling inferior/superior on a regular basis. I would venture to say most of us do.
I will admit that I’ve written things as jabs that were likely painful to read, even if I didn’t even realize it at the time. I also know that when I did, the source was pain. I was the one in pain.
When I was younger, I cared a great deal about what others thought. When I was the recipient of an unkind word, I would stew over it for hours, allowing it to poison a perfectly good day. My ego was entirely immersed in the perceptions of other people.
These days I think – why get my panties in a bunch over something that will just go away? If it’s not true, it’s not true. No manner of defending myself will make it more true.
So I try to let it go. I exhale, and I let it go.
People will talk shit, whether subtly to our face or viscously behind our back.
Rise above it and do something kind for someone else (or maybe even that person). Be kind to yourself and don’t ruin this day you’ve been blessed with.