Just let it go – mental digs and their unnecessary poison

You’ve likely had moments when someone makes a subtle comment that you both know is a jab in your direction. It irritates you. You stew over it, thinking of the many ways you can defend yourself and point out their faults.

Sometimes, you should speak up and defend yourself. Sometimes it’s not good to stay quiet and let people walk all over you.

But often, it’s just the other person being small, and everyone in the room knows it. They don’t feel good about themselves, so they try to make others feel even lower. Insecure people are in a constant game of comparing themselves to others – sometimes they feel superior, but often they feel inferior. It’s an exhausting game of seeking equilibrium for their fragile ego.

I should know. I catch myself feeling inferior/superior on a regular basis. I would venture to say most of us do.

I will admit that I’ve written things as jabs that were likely painful to read, even if I didn’t even realize it at the time. I also know that when I did, the source was pain. I was the one in pain.

When I was younger, I cared a great deal about what others thought. When I was the recipient of an unkind word, I would stew over it for hours, allowing it to poison a perfectly good day. My ego was entirely immersed in the perceptions of other people.

These days I think – why get my panties in a bunch over something that will just go away? If it’s not true, it’s not true. No manner of defending myself will make it more true.

So I try to let it go. I exhale, and I let it go.

People will talk shit, whether subtly to our face or viscously behind our back.

Rise above it and do something kind for someone else (or maybe even that person). Be kind to yourself and don’t ruin this day you’ve been blessed with.

9 comments

  1. Yeah, bunched panties suck! Yay, for growing up

    • Haha getting panties stuck in yer butt crack is not very comfortable, eh?! 😛 But anyway yeah, it is about growing up, isn’t it. I’m doing my best…most of the time anyway!

  2. Matthias

    Everyone has their perspective on life based on their experiences. They are merely perspectives. To take offense of another person’s perspective simply means that one is not in a position to understand that it is merely a perspective. They let it inside of them for some reason. Take offense.

    It is much like art. People take offense to many types of art. Is it the artist’s fault for their feelings of offense or the fault of the person who is offended? In my perspective, art is a chance for us to expand and understand more about ourselves by examining the art. Feeling what it causes us to feel and understand the feelings of offense, or unease that we might feel and learn from those feelings, rather than impose them on the artist who is merely expressing their perspective of life.

    Just my thoughts.

  3. You’re right, and I usually ask myself that (usually after I get offended and am in the process of trying to calm down). That being said, some people really do power trip. It’s a reality. In this scenario, it was a combo of both (I now realise).

    I like your analogy to art, which I’ll be thinking about the next time this comes up. Thanks for your critical perspective on this topic, Matthias.

  4. Reblogged this on therobynbirdsnest and commented:
    It’s an exhausting game.

  5. ‘Mental digs and their unnecessary poison’ – how true. Thanks for sharing.

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